For Those Grieving

The passing of a beloved pet is heart breaking and the grief experienced can be profound. It is important to feel your love for your pet by being with your emotions, as painful as this may be. Emotions may include guilt, fear, anger, resentment, intense sadness as well as love. Please know you are NOT alone. Many others share this pain of loss. And there is support.

Please do not bury your emotions of grief in an attempt to “just move on”

Talking to a non-judgmental friend or family member can be invaluable and in doing so honoring your feelings, cherishing the importance of your pet in your life and in so helping through grief.

The intensity of your grief may come and go over time, in waves.

In order to ‘cope’ with Grief we try to find ways to deeply honor our loved ones. In the resources section there are links with ideas.  Ideas may include rituals, poems, writing in a diary, poems and art.

In the case of euthanasia, this decision has come from LOVE and KINDNESS. By asking for veterinary guidance and support in making the ‘best’ decision, this may assist you in having a calmer passage of grief.

Please remember to be kind to yourself, forgiving yourself if necessary, giving yourself both compassionate space and time.  Know your pet was incredibly fortunate to have a loving owner as yourself.

Please know there is counselling available for those who need help with ‘coping’ in grief.

You can always call your health professional or Lifeline Australia – 13 11 14 – Crisis Support. Suicide Prevention.

“Grief is love turned into an eternal missing…
It can’t be contained in hours or days or minutes”

Rosamund Lupton

“I’m sorry.  Please forgive me.
Thank you. I love you……..”

Ho’oponopono prayer

For Those Supporting a Grieving Friend or Family Member

  • Please reach out to those grieving
  • Let your grieving loved one know you are there to listen and to honor their story. Just listen.
  • Understand that everyone grieves differently for differing times.
  • Offer help in practical ways such a cooking, shopping or transport.

These acts of kindness are very strong and will be valued.

For Parents Helping Grieving Kids

Please refer to Grief Resources Links where there is age-specific information and some lovely book ideas.

Recommended Books for Kids

Recommended Books for Adults

I have limited copies of all books in the Home Vet Service library available to lend at the time of visit.

A padded mail bag will be provided so they may be posted back in order to provide for future families.

‘Waiting for Wolf’ is available to borrow from some Brisbane and Gold Coast libraries.

‘The Invisible String’ is available to borrow from some Brisbane, Logan and Gold Coast libraries.

As of September 2021 “Waiting for Wolf” and “The Invisible String” were available to buy instore at Dymocks and all books were available on various online retailers.

The Rainbow Bridge

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together….

Author Unknown